The Truth About Motivation

We are constantly looking for new ways to motivate ourselves to do the things we know that we should be doing to move forward and achieve our intentions, but what if your natural state is, to be motivated.

What if all that is necessary, is for you to stop doing those things that prevent you from embracing your natural state of motivation.

Anytime you feel a lack of ambition, energy or enthusiasm, your are probably invoking one or all of the following five behaviors. Which will ensure You’ll stay in front of your television watching reruns or down at the neighborhood bar sipping on fermented hops and feeling unmotivated.

Behavior Number 5: Spending Time with Low Achievers

We absorb the mindset and attitudes of the people we associate with, so it’s important to stay away from the low achievers and instead spend time with high-fliers.

Be very careful to choose friends who are going somewhere and, if possible, who are open to the entire idea of achievement and success.

If you want to identify low achievers, listen for phrases like:

• You’d have to be ruthless to succeed like that
• He’s rich, so he MUST be crooked as a corkscrew
• We just weren’t born to be rich or successful
• I don’t try to be somebody I’m not
• We may be poor, but at least we’re happy

Be sure to spend all your available time with people who have the correct mindset.

Behavior Number 4: Avoiding Goal Oriented Activities

If you never set a goal. Never work toward anything. If someone offers you a step up, such as a promotion, and you firmly refuse. If you accept raises, but avoid giving any value in return, you just might be avoiding goal oriented activities.

Instead, try to pursue activities that might enlarge your concept of what’s possible. Ideally, you should be working to enlarge your world rather than shrinking it. At all costs, question your status quo as if your very life depends on it.

Focusing on these principles will open the door to excitement, hope, enthusiasm and other exciting emotions.

Behavior Number 3: Openly Criticizing High Achievers

Closely related to number 5 is this next behavior that causes you to move away from your natural motivated state.

Looking for ways to undercut the special achievements of others. If an acquaintance does something noteworthy, find a way to minimize there achievement. Typical examples include:

• I guess that’s good… but her poor husband and kids
• Pretty unbelievable. Wonder what he’s on?
• Of course, she never sees her old friends any more
• The way he smiles you’d think he’s sincere
• Some people just don’t know how much is enough

By suggesting a possible negative side of things, you can make them seem true, even though they’re not.

Please note that this behavior will work even if you don’t make your remarks aloud. Planting them in your own mind can squeeze out any urges to better yourself. So it’s a sure-fire way to keep yourself caged within your walls of limitations looking for ways to become motivated.

Behavior Number 2: You Seek Logical-Sounding Reasons for Why Not

Here is what this looks like. If an exciting idea wanders into your mind, you immediately reach for a ready repertoire of excuses so you don’t unthinkingly jump up to put the plan into action.

The logical repertoire of excuses sound like these:

• I would never know how to do that
• That would take too much time (energy, brains, etc.)
• They’d all laugh at me
• Who am I to try something like that?
• I’m not really all that interested in…

In fact, any kind of “I’m not, I can’t, I wouldn’t” thought will serve the purpose. They don’t need to be especially true – their only real purpose is to keep you from ever starting.

Behavior Number 1: Wallowing in Self Pity

And the number one behavior that will drive you away from your natural motivated state, is to spend a lot of time feeling sorry for yourself. It’s a big no-no if you want to feel hope or ambition or self-worth, so be on constant alert.

An especially effective way to keep self pity alive is to begin identifying yourself as a victim. Thinking of all the people who have wronged you (or your population demographic) over the years. Nursing steady feelings of anger, resentment, unfairness and even rage is one of the best possible ways to keep yourself feeling helpless and pitiful.

If such feelings appear, you must instantly remind yourself of all the reasons why you’re good enough, smart enough, and worthy enough.

Filling your mind with these thoughts will give hope and motivation a place to grow. —-

SO THERE YOU HAVE THEM, the top five behaviors that will keep you down in the dumps, down where all your energies are focused on despair and hopelessness, instead of soaring with the eagles. So remember to check for these five behaviors whenever you are feeling unmotivated.